Rapport with your kids

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So what is the best way of building rapport with your kids?

Well, you sit down with only one of them at a time in a quiet place where you are not going to be disturbed, no phones, no animals around, no distractions.

You ask questions, general questions and then get more specific. The most important thing is to LISTEN to your child; this is almost never done between parents and their kids. That's right, you never listen to what your child has to say and assume you know all the answers.

The first question should be something like this - but the question is obviously determined by the child's age;  "What have you been doing lately?" It is a broad question so the child has to think a little. You keep silent until you get a response. Once the child answers you acknowledge him/her. She may respond with "Playing with Sarah" So you ask her "Tell me about Sarah" even if you know all about Sarah. And the response might be "We played in the garden." So you follow up with "Which garden was that?"


After each answer an acknowledgment is given and there must be no interruptions while your child is thinking about the answer.Be a good listener to get a great rapport going with your children and do not interrupt their train of thought. Another important thing is this: do not evaluate for the child i.e. "well, you should have..."  rather ask a question "What would be the right thing to do?"