Does your kid call the tune?

Savvy parents know the worst thing to do to a child is smack, scold, whip, plead, punch, intimidate, take their possessions, or invalidate in any way. Why? Any form of control like this results in long-term emotional conflicts and worse, the kid becomes alienated from her/his parents.

If your kid is given a prize for a job well done, this signifies they are loved by their parents only when they perform exceptionally well.

So what do you do when your child flies into a rage, throws his toys out the cot and screams incessantly?

Would a nice calm voice do the trick? I don't think so. What about letting him continue with his antics until he knows he is not producing an effect any more? He is being "cause" as he is creating an effect on his parents, right? So perhaps ignoring it altogether might work?

How many times have you heard "Say please!" from parents or "Try being nicer to your brother" or "You will learn discipline!"

Is this robotic approach workable? So what would be the solution for extremely bad behavior like this in a child?

Any thoughts on this will be welcome.